Relationship Advice for Men Check Evolution to Find a Mate

What is the best relationship advice for men?
What should men know if they want a relationship
to work for the long haul?

Probably the single biggest piece of relationship
advice for men is to stop listening to what
women say they want and start observing what women
actually display that they want.

How do they display what they want?
It is as simple as observing what
kind of men they choose.

Women say “I want a man who listens to me.”
They choose the man who dominates the conversation.
Women say, “I want a guy with a good sense of humor.”
They date the guy who has money.

Why do women say they want one thing but actually
go out with a guy who is just the opposite?
The answer to that question lies in the subconscious
motivators for getting together.
And, therein lies my relationship advice for men.

The historical, biological reason for men and women
to get together is to propagate the species.
In other words, just because getting pregnant may be
the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates
a man at the subconscious level, she’s still looking
for a good papa for her children.

Is the good dad someone who listens to her?
No, it is someone who will provide for her children.
And, the person who can provide for her children is
someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.

Women need men who can be good providers.
While a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated
occasions throughout their adult lives, even into
their 90’s, women have about 400 chances of
producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for
a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies.

A man who tells a women he is a lawyer and not a
paralegal will have a better chance of landing her.
That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better
provider for her future children.

But having a good income is not enough.
A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with
his resources and will provide for her children.
That is why women place such a high value
on gifts such as jewelry.

It may also be why the engagement ring must be
such a large purchase. When you ask a woman to marry you,
you give her a ring, not just because it is traditional
and romantic, but because it is a tangible display that
you can provide for her and her children.

Further, even though modern humans make money more
from their brains than their brawn, women are still
programmed to think of strength equaling the ability
to provide. That’s why, even when there is evidence
to the contrary in the form of a tax return, the woman
is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.

So, the biggest piece of relationship advice for men
is to figure out what women need from an evolutionary
point of view and give it to her.

How You Tell If You Are In A Poisonous Relationship

Can you tell if you are in a poisonous relationship?
Here are some clues:

1)You have changed things about yourself to please them.

2)While your partner says they love you,
their actions don’t back it up.

3)Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others

4)Your partner is controlling – reading your mail or
“showing up” at places you are just to “check up” on you.

5)Your partner tries to make you dependent on them.

Toxic people make you feel ill just being around them.
So, why would anyone end up in a poisonous relationship?
Why would anyone want to be with someone who makes them
feel emotionally or physically harmed?

A poisonous relationship has a cycle.
There’s a honeymoon period, followed by a blow up,
followed by a reconciliation – at which point
the cycle begins anew.

When you first meet a new partner,
you are obviously in the honeymoon stage.
It is not until they’ve sucked you in further that
you realize that you are in a toxic relationship.
At that point, it is difficult to get out.

One reason is that many people in toxic relationships
grow up in toxic homes. As a result,
they replicate the patterns of their childhood
without even knowing they’re doing it.
And, they may not know any better.
Others believe they do not deserve happiness.
Still others find that they enjoy taking care of people.

But the first step in getting out and staying out
of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices.
Often people who stay in these couples have low
self esteem or suffer from depression.

Once you realize that you have choices,
the next step is to start standing up for yourself.
In most poisonous relationships, the toxic partner
has taught you that it is all your fault.
Once you buy into this, it can be very difficult to
either walk away from the relationship or set new
limits that can heal the relationship.

For some people, working in therapy groups can help
them either get out of or redefine these horrible relationships.

The good news is that some people are able to
break the cycles of toxic relationships.
Some of them leave the relationship and form new,
healthier bonds.

But others are actually able to repair their
relationship and stay in it.

The truth is that most relationships are able to be salvaged.
Sometimes it takes a little space. Other times,
it takes counseling. But if both partners make an attempt,
it is possible to renew the bonds in a healthy way.

The first thing you need to decide is that the relationship
must improve or you’re willing to walk away.
If you aren’t willing to walk away, you’ll never be able
to heal that which divides you.

Once you have liberated yourself from the dependency that
is at the core of a toxic relationship,
you can start to assert what you need from the connection.
Don’t nag the other person. Simply say “I need your support,”
“I need your love,” or “I need your truthful opinion.”

If you don’t get what you need, the other person should
know that you’re prepared to walk.

A healthy relationship is a two way street.
In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way.
You have the power to change that, but you must take the
power into your own hands.

Here is a book I recommend to help mend or get that
ex back Magic Of Making Up