What is the best relationship advice for men?
What should men know if they want a relationship
to work for the long haul?
Probably the single biggest piece of relationship
advice for men is to stop listening to what
women say they want and start observing what women
actually display that they want.
How do they display what they want?
It is as simple as observing what
kind of men they choose.
Women say “I want a man who listens to me.”
They choose the man who dominates the conversation.
Women say, “I want a guy with a good sense of humor.”
They date the guy who has money.
Why do women say they want one thing but actually
go out with a guy who is just the opposite?
The answer to that question lies in the subconscious
motivators for getting together.
And, therein lies my relationship advice for men.
The historical, biological reason for men and women
to get together is to propagate the species.
In other words, just because getting pregnant may be
the last thing on her conscious mind, when she evaluates
a man at the subconscious level, she’s still looking
for a good papa for her children.
Is the good dad someone who listens to her?
No, it is someone who will provide for her children.
And, the person who can provide for her children is
someone who has the confidence to bring home the bacon.
Women need men who can be good providers.
While a man can produce thousands of sperm on repeated
occasions throughout their adult lives, even into
their 90’s, women have about 400 chances of
producing a baby. As a result, they are looking for
a man who can provide longevity and stability for their babies.
A man who tells a women he is a lawyer and not a
paralegal will have a better chance of landing her.
That is because she perceives that a lawyer is a better
provider for her future children.
But having a good income is not enough.
A woman needs to perceive that a man is generous with
his resources and will provide for her children.
That is why women place such a high value
on gifts such as jewelry.
It may also be why the engagement ring must be
such a large purchase. When you ask a woman to marry you,
you give her a ring, not just because it is traditional
and romantic, but because it is a tangible display that
you can provide for her and her children.
Further, even though modern humans make money more
from their brains than their brawn, women are still
programmed to think of strength equaling the ability
to provide. That’s why, even when there is evidence
to the contrary in the form of a tax return, the woman
is hardwired to choose the lineman over the computer geek.
So, the biggest piece of relationship advice for men
is to figure out what women need from an evolutionary
point of view and give it to her.
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Monday, March 30, 2009
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
How You Tell If You Are In A Poisonous Relationship
Can you tell if you are in a poisonous relationship?
Here are some clues:
1)You have changed things about yourself to please them.
2)While your partner says they love you,
their actions don’t back it up.
3)Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others
4)Your partner is controlling – reading your mail or
“showing up” at places you are just to “check up” on you.
5)Your partner tries to make you dependent on them.
Toxic people make you feel ill just being around them.
So, why would anyone end up in a poisonous relationship?
Why would anyone want to be with someone who makes them
feel emotionally or physically harmed?
A poisonous relationship has a cycle.
There’s a honeymoon period, followed by a blow up,
followed by a reconciliation – at which point
the cycle begins anew.
When you first meet a new partner,
you are obviously in the honeymoon stage.
It is not until they’ve sucked you in further that
you realize that you are in a toxic relationship.
At that point, it is difficult to get out.
One reason is that many people in toxic relationships
grow up in toxic homes. As a result,
they replicate the patterns of their childhood
without even knowing they’re doing it.
And, they may not know any better.
Others believe they do not deserve happiness.
Still others find that they enjoy taking care of people.
But the first step in getting out and staying out
of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices.
Often people who stay in these couples have low
self esteem or suffer from depression.
Once you realize that you have choices,
the next step is to start standing up for yourself.
In most poisonous relationships, the toxic partner
has taught you that it is all your fault.
Once you buy into this, it can be very difficult to
either walk away from the relationship or set new
limits that can heal the relationship.
For some people, working in therapy groups can help
them either get out of or redefine these horrible relationships.
The good news is that some people are able to
break the cycles of toxic relationships.
Some of them leave the relationship and form new,
healthier bonds.
But others are actually able to repair their
relationship and stay in it.
The truth is that most relationships are able to be salvaged.
Sometimes it takes a little space. Other times,
it takes counseling. But if both partners make an attempt,
it is possible to renew the bonds in a healthy way.
The first thing you need to decide is that the relationship
must improve or you’re willing to walk away.
If you aren’t willing to walk away, you’ll never be able
to heal that which divides you.
Once you have liberated yourself from the dependency that
is at the core of a toxic relationship,
you can start to assert what you need from the connection.
Don’t nag the other person. Simply say “I need your support,”
“I need your love,” or “I need your truthful opinion.”
If you don’t get what you need, the other person should
know that you’re prepared to walk.
A healthy relationship is a two way street.
In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way.
You have the power to change that, but you must take the
power into your own hands.
Here is a book I recommend to help mend or get that
ex back Magic Of Making Up
Here are some clues:
1)You have changed things about yourself to please them.
2)While your partner says they love you,
their actions don’t back it up.
3)Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others
4)Your partner is controlling – reading your mail or
“showing up” at places you are just to “check up” on you.
5)Your partner tries to make you dependent on them.
Toxic people make you feel ill just being around them.
So, why would anyone end up in a poisonous relationship?
Why would anyone want to be with someone who makes them
feel emotionally or physically harmed?
A poisonous relationship has a cycle.
There’s a honeymoon period, followed by a blow up,
followed by a reconciliation – at which point
the cycle begins anew.
When you first meet a new partner,
you are obviously in the honeymoon stage.
It is not until they’ve sucked you in further that
you realize that you are in a toxic relationship.
At that point, it is difficult to get out.
One reason is that many people in toxic relationships
grow up in toxic homes. As a result,
they replicate the patterns of their childhood
without even knowing they’re doing it.
And, they may not know any better.
Others believe they do not deserve happiness.
Still others find that they enjoy taking care of people.
But the first step in getting out and staying out
of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices.
Often people who stay in these couples have low
self esteem or suffer from depression.
Once you realize that you have choices,
the next step is to start standing up for yourself.
In most poisonous relationships, the toxic partner
has taught you that it is all your fault.
Once you buy into this, it can be very difficult to
either walk away from the relationship or set new
limits that can heal the relationship.
For some people, working in therapy groups can help
them either get out of or redefine these horrible relationships.
The good news is that some people are able to
break the cycles of toxic relationships.
Some of them leave the relationship and form new,
healthier bonds.
But others are actually able to repair their
relationship and stay in it.
The truth is that most relationships are able to be salvaged.
Sometimes it takes a little space. Other times,
it takes counseling. But if both partners make an attempt,
it is possible to renew the bonds in a healthy way.
The first thing you need to decide is that the relationship
must improve or you’re willing to walk away.
If you aren’t willing to walk away, you’ll never be able
to heal that which divides you.
Once you have liberated yourself from the dependency that
is at the core of a toxic relationship,
you can start to assert what you need from the connection.
Don’t nag the other person. Simply say “I need your support,”
“I need your love,” or “I need your truthful opinion.”
If you don’t get what you need, the other person should
know that you’re prepared to walk.
A healthy relationship is a two way street.
In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way.
You have the power to change that, but you must take the
power into your own hands.
Here is a book I recommend to help mend or get that
ex back Magic Of Making Up
Monday, March 9, 2009
Relationship Quotes From Famous People
Here are some funny quotes from famous people about relationships sure to
give you a smile.
"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
-Oprah Winfrey
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." -Anthony Robbins
"Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same." -Flavia Weedn
"The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time." – Caroline Myss
"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." – Mark Twain
"Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with" ~ Gillian Anderson
"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." – Aristotle
"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." – Helen Keller
"Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl - no superior alternative has yet been found." – Winston Churchill
"It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations." – Kahlin Gibran
"To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person." – Eric Fromm
"Man is a knot into which relationships are tied." ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
"You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete." ~ Keith Sweat
"Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others." ~ Stephen R. Covey
"Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made - like bread, remade all the time, made new." – Ursula LeGuin
"Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it's really no fun lying to 'em anymore." -Norm from Cheers
There’s a broad collection of relationship quotes for you.
give you a smile.
"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
-Oprah Winfrey
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." -Anthony Robbins
"Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same." -Flavia Weedn
"The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time." – Caroline Myss
"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." – Mark Twain
"Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with" ~ Gillian Anderson
"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." – Aristotle
"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." – Helen Keller
"Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl - no superior alternative has yet been found." – Winston Churchill
"It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations." – Kahlin Gibran
"To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person." – Eric Fromm
"Man is a knot into which relationships are tied." ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
"You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete." ~ Keith Sweat
"Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others." ~ Stephen R. Covey
"Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made - like bread, remade all the time, made new." – Ursula LeGuin
"Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it's really no fun lying to 'em anymore." -Norm from Cheers
There’s a broad collection of relationship quotes for you.
Saturday, March 7, 2009
How A Rebound Relationship Can Work In Your Favor
Now you have broken up with the love of your life and she is in a rebound relationship, how do you get her back?
A rebound relationship is one where she is dating someone else to get over you. Rebound relationships keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. They’re used to help people move on from a real love.
And that’s the key to getting your ex back. She’s in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you.
It does not matter why she lost you. It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or hers. It doesn’t even matter who actually called the relationship off. What matters is that you have a real love.
Because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.
If she’s in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship. If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out with a “bad boy.” If you were into philosophy, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.
The fact that she is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons. Her attention is still focused on you even when she’s with the new guy. And, it gives you a chance to see what she’s looking for.
If she’s with someone as different from you as possible, it means that she was missing something in your relationship. You can use the time she’s with rebound man to improve yourself.
Let the rebound relationship run its course. Because, as she spends time with the new guy, she’ll start to see the flaws in him. After a month or so with rebound man, you’ll start to look pretty good.
That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to her right away. Let her develop the idea that she misses the good things in the relationship. When she’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome her back graciously. Be a new and improved boyfriend, but don’t do the chasing.
Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:
· Don’t try to convince her that you are the love of her life. Let her discover this on her own.
· Don’t apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry. Once. But move on. She knows the real reason she loves you.
· Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who she fell in love with.
· Don’t try to make her see that it wasn’t your fault. She will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made her invest energy in defending her position that it was your fault.
· Never, ever beg her to take you back.
When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she’s in a rebound relationship. You can make up with her and get back together. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that she’s still in love with you.
More great advice here Magic Of Making Up
A rebound relationship is one where she is dating someone else to get over you. Rebound relationships keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up. They’re used to help people move on from a real love.
And that’s the key to getting your ex back. She’s in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you.
It does not matter why she lost you. It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or hers. It doesn’t even matter who actually called the relationship off. What matters is that you have a real love.
Because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.
If she’s in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship. If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out with a “bad boy.” If you were into philosophy, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.
The fact that she is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons. Her attention is still focused on you even when she’s with the new guy. And, it gives you a chance to see what she’s looking for.
If she’s with someone as different from you as possible, it means that she was missing something in your relationship. You can use the time she’s with rebound man to improve yourself.
Let the rebound relationship run its course. Because, as she spends time with the new guy, she’ll start to see the flaws in him. After a month or so with rebound man, you’ll start to look pretty good.
That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to her right away. Let her develop the idea that she misses the good things in the relationship. When she’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome her back graciously. Be a new and improved boyfriend, but don’t do the chasing.
Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:
· Don’t try to convince her that you are the love of her life. Let her discover this on her own.
· Don’t apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry. Once. But move on. She knows the real reason she loves you.
· Don’t make promises to change. You are who you are and that’s who she fell in love with.
· Don’t try to make her see that it wasn’t your fault. She will come to appreciate that over time – but only if you haven’t made her invest energy in defending her position that it was your fault.
· Never, ever beg her to take you back.
When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she’s in a rebound relationship. You can make up with her and get back together. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that she’s still in love with you.
More great advice here Magic Of Making Up
Thursday, February 19, 2009
How To Get Back Together With Your Ex Boyfriend
Sacrifice and compromise are both critical parts in the
give and take that goes hand in hand with any relationship.
If you are asking "How can I get back together with
my ex boyfriend?" then you are going to need to keep
these things in mind. Nothing is going to make mending
a broken relationship simple, but some of the advice
contained within this article can certainly make it a
lot less difficult overall to give him a reason to
want to come back to you.
So while you may be obsessing with the all
important question, "how can I get back together
with my ex boyfriend?", what you need to be
focusing on is rectifying the causes of failure.
By doing so you will be able to eliminate the tension
and stress which brought the split on in the first place.
So, How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend, you ask?
When a relationship fails, you need to take that
as an indication that something went wrong.
If your boyfriend left you, then it was likely for
one of two reasons: Either the relationship was
becoming stale because there was not enough of you in it,
or the relationship was getting too claustrophobic
because there was too much of you in it.
Either way, one of these causes is going to lead to
relationship suicide. If you are asking
"How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend",
then you need to start looking at which of these led to
the break up so you can act accordingly.
Whatever the issue is that chiefly contributed to the split,
it was probably either something that you did,
or something that you didn't do. It may be harsh to
look at things this way, but that is simply how it
usually works. The person who was broken up with
either did, or did not do something and the person
doing the splitting simply felt driven away.
So now what happens, and how can you manage
to get him to come back? The first step is to change
whatever it was that drove him away in the first place.
You need to sit down and really take a hard look
at your situation. What could have led to the breakup?
Which of these things were your fault,
and which were not your fault?
Rule out the ones that were out of your control,
since they continue to be out of your control,
and focus on the things that you did do wrong,
the ones that you can in fact change. If your biggest
problem is something that you were responsible for
and that you could change, then there is a very good
chance that you can still get back together with him.
However, you must be certain you really are willing
to make the necessary changes to appeal to him again.
Just knowing how to get back together with your
ex boyfriend is not enough. It won't happen unless you
are willing to take action. Now!
Get more Advice here Magic of Making Up
give and take that goes hand in hand with any relationship.
If you are asking "How can I get back together with
my ex boyfriend?" then you are going to need to keep
these things in mind. Nothing is going to make mending
a broken relationship simple, but some of the advice
contained within this article can certainly make it a
lot less difficult overall to give him a reason to
want to come back to you.
So while you may be obsessing with the all
important question, "how can I get back together
with my ex boyfriend?", what you need to be
focusing on is rectifying the causes of failure.
By doing so you will be able to eliminate the tension
and stress which brought the split on in the first place.
So, How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend, you ask?
When a relationship fails, you need to take that
as an indication that something went wrong.
If your boyfriend left you, then it was likely for
one of two reasons: Either the relationship was
becoming stale because there was not enough of you in it,
or the relationship was getting too claustrophobic
because there was too much of you in it.
Either way, one of these causes is going to lead to
relationship suicide. If you are asking
"How can I get back together with my ex boyfriend",
then you need to start looking at which of these led to
the break up so you can act accordingly.
Whatever the issue is that chiefly contributed to the split,
it was probably either something that you did,
or something that you didn't do. It may be harsh to
look at things this way, but that is simply how it
usually works. The person who was broken up with
either did, or did not do something and the person
doing the splitting simply felt driven away.
So now what happens, and how can you manage
to get him to come back? The first step is to change
whatever it was that drove him away in the first place.
You need to sit down and really take a hard look
at your situation. What could have led to the breakup?
Which of these things were your fault,
and which were not your fault?
Rule out the ones that were out of your control,
since they continue to be out of your control,
and focus on the things that you did do wrong,
the ones that you can in fact change. If your biggest
problem is something that you were responsible for
and that you could change, then there is a very good
chance that you can still get back together with him.
However, you must be certain you really are willing
to make the necessary changes to appeal to him again.
Just knowing how to get back together with your
ex boyfriend is not enough. It won't happen unless you
are willing to take action. Now!
Get more Advice here Magic of Making Up
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
5 Steps On How I Can Get Back Together With My Ex Girlfriend
Sometimes when a relationship comes to an abrupt end,
either one or both parties involved may still be in doubt
that the end is really the end, and this is especially
true when a relationship is new. Some men simply
cannot accept the fact that their girlfriend walked away.
Therefore, they find themselves still hoping she'll still
be there in the morning and that it was all a dream.
Are you asking "How can I get back together with my ex girlfriend",
it is important that you create a plan regarding how to do it.
In order to get back together with your ex girlfriend,
there are numerous steps to take.
Here are some of the tips that you should keep in mind
when working through this process.
1) There is always a second chance for everyone,
so it's not impossible for you to get back together with
your ex girlfriend. But first, you should ask yourself
some questions Do you still love her? Do you really
want her back? Why? Are you trying to get her back
because you don't want to be alone,
or you don't believe you should have been dumped?
If you are looking to get back with your ex for
reasons other than love, you may be playing a
dangerous game that would be better off avoided.
2) Do not appear desperate or needy to your girlfriend
if your priority is "how can I get back together
with my ex girlfriend?" Although you may feel desperate,
and you may really want her back, you absolutely need
to control your emotions, keeping them to yourself.
If you cannot help them, then it may be wise to talk
to your friends or family so you can cry your heart out
where she cannot see. Do not beg or cry in front of your
girlfriend, however, and absolutely do not stalk her.
3) Learn how to control your feelings,
forgetting about self pity and instead working on
the positive aspects of working things through with your ex.
If you appear too needy, or if you come off as too desperate,
she may end up avoiding you even more.
4) Keep the communication lines with your ex open.
She may have ended the relationship, but you just need
to make her feel like communication lines are open and
that you want to be civil. You do not have to be the one
initiating the conversation, but you should be willing to say
hello and have a conversation occasionally with her,
keeping in touch casually.
5) Above all else, analyze what went awry with the
relationship. There must have been a problem
that led to the end of the relationship, so find out what
the problem was if you want to get back together
with your ex. Find out what caused the arguments,
of which of her needs weren't being met,
and work on rectifying those issues.
More Advice Here to Get Back Together
either one or both parties involved may still be in doubt
that the end is really the end, and this is especially
true when a relationship is new. Some men simply
cannot accept the fact that their girlfriend walked away.
Therefore, they find themselves still hoping she'll still
be there in the morning and that it was all a dream.
Are you asking "How can I get back together with my ex girlfriend",
it is important that you create a plan regarding how to do it.
In order to get back together with your ex girlfriend,
there are numerous steps to take.
Here are some of the tips that you should keep in mind
when working through this process.
1) There is always a second chance for everyone,
so it's not impossible for you to get back together with
your ex girlfriend. But first, you should ask yourself
some questions Do you still love her? Do you really
want her back? Why? Are you trying to get her back
because you don't want to be alone,
or you don't believe you should have been dumped?
If you are looking to get back with your ex for
reasons other than love, you may be playing a
dangerous game that would be better off avoided.
2) Do not appear desperate or needy to your girlfriend
if your priority is "how can I get back together
with my ex girlfriend?" Although you may feel desperate,
and you may really want her back, you absolutely need
to control your emotions, keeping them to yourself.
If you cannot help them, then it may be wise to talk
to your friends or family so you can cry your heart out
where she cannot see. Do not beg or cry in front of your
girlfriend, however, and absolutely do not stalk her.
3) Learn how to control your feelings,
forgetting about self pity and instead working on
the positive aspects of working things through with your ex.
If you appear too needy, or if you come off as too desperate,
she may end up avoiding you even more.
4) Keep the communication lines with your ex open.
She may have ended the relationship, but you just need
to make her feel like communication lines are open and
that you want to be civil. You do not have to be the one
initiating the conversation, but you should be willing to say
hello and have a conversation occasionally with her,
keeping in touch casually.
5) Above all else, analyze what went awry with the
relationship. There must have been a problem
that led to the end of the relationship, so find out what
the problem was if you want to get back together
with your ex. Find out what caused the arguments,
of which of her needs weren't being met,
and work on rectifying those issues.
More Advice Here to Get Back Together
Monday, February 16, 2009
How To Get My Ex Back
Did you just experience a break up?
Are you wondering how to go get an ex back?
Almost nearly every person has experienced some
kind of a break up, and most just work on
moving on rather than looking for a way to
get an ex back. But if you are over playing
the victim and want to put some work in to get
an ex back, then there are options for you.
Everyone deals with breakup, but does
break up simply mean that you
cannot get back together with your ex?
The fact is, 90 percent of the time there
is no reason why you cannot get an
ex back after a break up,
providing that you know what steps are
necessary to win your ex back.
The first step in learning how to get
an ex back is to determine what exactly
happened that caused the break up.
Even though you cannot go back into the past,
and you cannot change what happened,
you can learn from the mistakes that
were made and you can try to learn
and grow from the experiences.
The break up may have occurred because
of a single event, or it may have occurred
from behaviors that your ex could not
deal with anymore. No matter what
the reason was that led to the breakup,
you need to get the specifics figured out
so that you can deal with the situation
if it should never come up again.
You can get an ex back if you know how,
but if you want to make it work on a
long term basis, you need to
figure out what went wrong in the first place.
The next step in the process is to ensure
that you are not coming off as a needy person.
Everyone will feel like they cannot live without
their ex, but there is no point in making
this obvious. Instead, you should stay strong,
and let your ex see that you are doing just
fine by yourself. If you let everyone around
you see your comfort and self confidence,
then you will have a better chance of
getting back together with your ex.
Trying to get back at your ex,
or trying to make your ex jealous
is not a good way to operate. In fact,
these are some of the worst things
that you can possibly do, because it will
show your ex that he or she should simply
move on because you already have.
While you do want your ex to see that
you're doing ok, you do not want it to
inspire him or her to completely move on
if your ideal scenario is to get back together.
Let your ex see how strong and self
confident you are, and they will feel
inspired to get back together with you.
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Are you wondering how to go get an ex back?
Almost nearly every person has experienced some
kind of a break up, and most just work on
moving on rather than looking for a way to
get an ex back. But if you are over playing
the victim and want to put some work in to get
an ex back, then there are options for you.
Everyone deals with breakup, but does
break up simply mean that you
cannot get back together with your ex?
The fact is, 90 percent of the time there
is no reason why you cannot get an
ex back after a break up,
providing that you know what steps are
necessary to win your ex back.
The first step in learning how to get
an ex back is to determine what exactly
happened that caused the break up.
Even though you cannot go back into the past,
and you cannot change what happened,
you can learn from the mistakes that
were made and you can try to learn
and grow from the experiences.
The break up may have occurred because
of a single event, or it may have occurred
from behaviors that your ex could not
deal with anymore. No matter what
the reason was that led to the breakup,
you need to get the specifics figured out
so that you can deal with the situation
if it should never come up again.
You can get an ex back if you know how,
but if you want to make it work on a
long term basis, you need to
figure out what went wrong in the first place.
The next step in the process is to ensure
that you are not coming off as a needy person.
Everyone will feel like they cannot live without
their ex, but there is no point in making
this obvious. Instead, you should stay strong,
and let your ex see that you are doing just
fine by yourself. If you let everyone around
you see your comfort and self confidence,
then you will have a better chance of
getting back together with your ex.
Trying to get back at your ex,
or trying to make your ex jealous
is not a good way to operate. In fact,
these are some of the worst things
that you can possibly do, because it will
show your ex that he or she should simply
move on because you already have.
While you do want your ex to see that
you're doing ok, you do not want it to
inspire him or her to completely move on
if your ideal scenario is to get back together.
Let your ex see how strong and self
confident you are, and they will feel
inspired to get back together with you.
More great advice here
Sunday, February 15, 2009
How To Tell If My Ex Want's To Get Back With Me
If your ex is showing you some interest,
or seems more interested in going out
and spending time with you than before,
or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to
flirt with you, then you might be in luck,
and it's okay to be a little
hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun.
Are you asking yourself
"does my ex want to get back with me"?
These are definitely very common signs that
your ex is interested in getting back together.
But even if you want to get back with your ex,
you should not simply jump into things.
The best way to play things is to play hard to get
(in moderation), which is probably what your
ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply
jump into things full force, then you may find
your ex pushing you back again. In fact,
if your ex is giving indications that he or she
wants you back, then the odds are,
it was you playing hard to get that led to the
renewed interest in the first place.
Usually when you break up with your ex,
or he or she breaks up with you, there is a
natural level of missing one another,
or longing to get back together. This is
especially true following a relationship
of a year or longer. Your ex is probably
going to miss you no matter what,
because of how many memories were
shared together during this period of time.
But there are other emotions that come
into play including past regrets.
If you are wondering
"does my ex want to get back with me"
the odds are that your ex may be thinking
the same thing for the same reasons.
Sometimes when an ex shows interest
again following a break up however, it is
only a game. They may see that you love them,
and they may simply be trying to get attention,
without actually intending to get you back. So,
unless your ex really seems genuinely
interested in spending time with you, they may
just be passing the time because they
have no other prospects on the horizon.
And worst of all they may see this as away
to get revenge for some perceived wrong.
This is why it is important not to jump the gun,
and why you should focus on reading
into the situation before you act on it.
This is common, and a lot of people find
themselves wondering
"does my ex want to get back with me?",
but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the
situation before you act. In reality,
if your ex does want to get back with you,
playing hard to get (in moderation) is the
best scenario because it will prevent
you from getting hurt if your ex is not
really serious about getting back with you.
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or seems more interested in going out
and spending time with you than before,
or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to
flirt with you, then you might be in luck,
and it's okay to be a little
hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun.
Are you asking yourself
"does my ex want to get back with me"?
These are definitely very common signs that
your ex is interested in getting back together.
But even if you want to get back with your ex,
you should not simply jump into things.
The best way to play things is to play hard to get
(in moderation), which is probably what your
ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply
jump into things full force, then you may find
your ex pushing you back again. In fact,
if your ex is giving indications that he or she
wants you back, then the odds are,
it was you playing hard to get that led to the
renewed interest in the first place.
Usually when you break up with your ex,
or he or she breaks up with you, there is a
natural level of missing one another,
or longing to get back together. This is
especially true following a relationship
of a year or longer. Your ex is probably
going to miss you no matter what,
because of how many memories were
shared together during this period of time.
But there are other emotions that come
into play including past regrets.
If you are wondering
"does my ex want to get back with me"
the odds are that your ex may be thinking
the same thing for the same reasons.
Sometimes when an ex shows interest
again following a break up however, it is
only a game. They may see that you love them,
and they may simply be trying to get attention,
without actually intending to get you back. So,
unless your ex really seems genuinely
interested in spending time with you, they may
just be passing the time because they
have no other prospects on the horizon.
And worst of all they may see this as away
to get revenge for some perceived wrong.
This is why it is important not to jump the gun,
and why you should focus on reading
into the situation before you act on it.
This is common, and a lot of people find
themselves wondering
"does my ex want to get back with me?",
but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the
situation before you act. In reality,
if your ex does want to get back with you,
playing hard to get (in moderation) is the
best scenario because it will prevent
you from getting hurt if your ex is not
really serious about getting back with you.
Find More Answers Here
Friday, February 13, 2009
What Can I Do To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back
A lot of people find themselves asking
"What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back"
following a breakup. Most of us begin to start
thinking to much about everything that could
have been done differently. They even
begin to write apology letters and plan other
things that might be able to help them score their
relationship back.
This tends to a bad way to go about it,
for one reason above all else:
Because you can never really tell what
the real reasons were behind a breakup.
Women become emotional and sometimes
they do not even know what led to the
break up at hand and they may not know
what is making them feel the way they do.
In many circumstances it is only harmful
to lose all your sleep trying to figure out
what went wrong.
The first main strategy to answer the question about
"what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back"
is to forget about the relationship for a while,
putting your energy into something else.
Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and
forget about women in general.
Set some realistic goals about
expanding your repertoire when it comes
to seduction and meeting people.
Give yourself some time maybe a couple
of months and make changes in your life.
Take some time away from your ex
and it will work wonders.
The simple effect that strategies like this will have,
is that it will allow you to
make gradual changes in your life.
And in how you perceive the subject of relationships.
After a few months, you may have a much
better idea of how you want to proceed
with your ex with a much clearer mind.
Then ask yourself these questions.
Do you still want to get back together with her?
Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly.
If you still want to get back together with her,
it might be the right time to figure out
how she is feeling about you.
Now is your chance to be a little more direct
when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back.
You need to play strategically, however.
Do not simply beg her to get back with you,
because this is not a good time to be emotional.
Instead, what you should be doing is playing
things cool with your ex.
If you have spent enough time apart from her,
she is probably missing you as badly as
you are missing her.
Play hard to get a little (don't over do it)
and show her that you are doing fine without her.
This will inspire her to really rethink things.
And if it is meant to be, now is the time when it
will become apparent.
Be careful not to over analyze, because analyzing
to much may prevent you from acting
the right way when trying to figure out
"what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back".
Just take things slow and play them cool
and you should be fine.
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"What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back"
following a breakup. Most of us begin to start
thinking to much about everything that could
have been done differently. They even
begin to write apology letters and plan other
things that might be able to help them score their
relationship back.
This tends to a bad way to go about it,
for one reason above all else:
Because you can never really tell what
the real reasons were behind a breakup.
Women become emotional and sometimes
they do not even know what led to the
break up at hand and they may not know
what is making them feel the way they do.
In many circumstances it is only harmful
to lose all your sleep trying to figure out
what went wrong.
The first main strategy to answer the question about
"what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back"
is to forget about the relationship for a while,
putting your energy into something else.
Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and
forget about women in general.
Set some realistic goals about
expanding your repertoire when it comes
to seduction and meeting people.
Give yourself some time maybe a couple
of months and make changes in your life.
Take some time away from your ex
and it will work wonders.
The simple effect that strategies like this will have,
is that it will allow you to
make gradual changes in your life.
And in how you perceive the subject of relationships.
After a few months, you may have a much
better idea of how you want to proceed
with your ex with a much clearer mind.
Then ask yourself these questions.
Do you still want to get back together with her?
Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly.
If you still want to get back together with her,
it might be the right time to figure out
how she is feeling about you.
Now is your chance to be a little more direct
when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back.
You need to play strategically, however.
Do not simply beg her to get back with you,
because this is not a good time to be emotional.
Instead, what you should be doing is playing
things cool with your ex.
If you have spent enough time apart from her,
she is probably missing you as badly as
you are missing her.
Play hard to get a little (don't over do it)
and show her that you are doing fine without her.
This will inspire her to really rethink things.
And if it is meant to be, now is the time when it
will become apparent.
Be careful not to over analyze, because analyzing
to much may prevent you from acting
the right way when trying to figure out
"what can I do to get my ex girlfriend back".
Just take things slow and play them cool
and you should be fine.
Get more advice here
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
What Can You Do That Will Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
Are you feeling depressed and everything you do pushes your ex farther
away? Is this describing your situation?
Are you asking yourself "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" at every hour?
Here are some great tips that will sure to improve your chances
of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.
Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your
relationship, which is why you are here reading this article in the first place.
But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving
in the wrong way, and this will cause your ex to pull away naturally. It is human
nature to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is
completely pointless, and it will only make matters at hand much worse.
Maybe you are calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text
messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing
these things, stop! If you keep asking yourself " What can I do to get my ex
boyfriend back", then you need to stop doing these things right away.
So What can you do to get your ex boyfriend back?
Follow this proven strategy right away.
You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach to this situation.
Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time
where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can
focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than
focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging
time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your
old ways. This is a must first step.
During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about
you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. You may become mysterious to
him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This
is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position
to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering him.
You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to
work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are
wondering " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", now you should have
a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided.
Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and
allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.
Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear
mysterious and he will remember why he loved you in the first place.
Play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out
on top. And then you will stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back"
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away? Is this describing your situation?
Are you asking yourself "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" at every hour?
Here are some great tips that will sure to improve your chances
of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.
Obviously right now you are serious about saving or rekindling your
relationship, which is why you are here reading this article in the first place.
But if you are feeling overly anxious to get your ex back, you may be behaving
in the wrong way, and this will cause your ex to pull away naturally. It is human
nature to resist this kind of pressure. Struggling against human nature is
completely pointless, and it will only make matters at hand much worse.
Maybe you are calling your ex too much, constantly writing him e-mails or text
messaging him? Are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing
these things, stop! If you keep asking yourself " What can I do to get my ex
boyfriend back", then you need to stop doing these things right away.
So What can you do to get your ex boyfriend back?
Follow this proven strategy right away.
You are going to need to take a completely fresh approach to this situation.
Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. During this time
where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can
focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than
focusing on the relationship issues at hand. This is going to be a challenging
time, and it is going to require discipline to prevent you from returning to your
old ways. This is a must first step.
During this time, your ex is going to experience a shift in how he feels about
you, since you will no longer be pursuing him. You may become mysterious to
him in some ways, because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This
is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex is in a position
to actually miss you, which is not possible when you are smothering him.
You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to
work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are
wondering " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", now you should have
a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided.
Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and
allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.
Just keep yourself grounded and avoid smothering him. Make yourself appear
mysterious and he will remember why he loved you in the first place.
Play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out
on top. And then you will stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back"
Get More Help Here
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Love Pain And Confused?
Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged?
You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse...even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships.
Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!
There is hope...
Don't you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?...or vice versa?
I bet you do…and here's the strange real clincher…
Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?
Think about it for a sec...
Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.
Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…
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